Love Your Children Part 2
This is amazing.
I wonder do I want to name my third child, Love. I happen to click on pregnancy giving birth video. Guess what? They documented the birth of Baby 'Love'. What a coincidence! This is still in the pipeline! Help me vote at the right hand side column! -->
I'm just so excited about it.
Loving your child is undivided and not equal. This is the fact. Josh and Kate are different in terms of character and behaviour. And both Eve and I know it. Josh is a boy who needs more loves and hugs and confirmation from us, and of course we have to explain to him at times what should be done, and what is right and wrong. It's challenging because we are learning. Josh is learning too! For Kate, she can roam around by herself and at times, when an aeroplane flys by, she will be afraid and needs our attention. Here comes our hugs to her! Every child is different.
Compliment
We must try ways to compliment our children as much as possible when we see good acts from them.
For example:
1. Josh shares his toys with Kate.
2. Josh feeds Kate.
3. Josh holds her hand up the stairs.
4. Josh keeps his toys, without us telling him.
5. Josh washes his hands, legs automatically!
6. Josh finishes his food by himself!
All these instances, we have to say 'Great Job', 'Good Boy'... this is to encourage him and it will leave him a good impression. He feels good, we feels good.
I can still remember that my dad only said 'Good Boy' to me only once. And this is certainly memorable because it was done once. And I feel that more should be said as a child will feel loved even more. Guys seldom will like to say these words, however, I will make a conscious effort to do it. I will not fake it, but definitely, when Josh crosses the line, we will distract him to do other things and explain to him nicely.
Anyway, compliments are FREE!
For Kate, she now prefers to wear herself shoes, and socks. The growing independence at her side and it is really commendable because she wants to do things herself. Also, she wants to drink milk, eat meals herself! This is really very good! We kept encouraging her even though the way she wore the shoes take a long time, she managed to do it!
Copying
For my two children, now, both copies what each other are doing.
1. If Kate is wanting to play cooking, Josh will come too and may take the toys! Kate will be unhappy about it. We will distract Josh to do other interesting thing like train track building.
2. If Kate pronounces wrongly, Josh will also follow what she is saying. Those baby talk. Of course we try to correct him as we do not want to make it a habit for him.
3. If Josh is eating by himself, Kate will also mirror him and wants to eat too! This is good.
4. If Kate is bathing, and when Josh sees her bath, he will also want to bathe. This is positive mirroring.
This copying or mirroring is positive and negative at times. And when it is positive, we praise them!
If it causes discontentment, it is our role as parents to guide and show patience to them.
I can still recall last time when my sister and I would quarrel about some small issues on toys, and that the certain plastic container is suddenly so precious. Everyone wants to have it. We have to educate about sharing and we must keep emphasizing what is correct and should not do.
Hence, love and patience should be shown when we teach our children. It is so important, but it's tough! Sometimes, we have to manage our emotions and remember not to raise our voices. Take a deep breath. If one is not enough, take even more deep breaths!
It's funny that Kate treats Josh as a role model. Now, she even wants to wear his clothes! How wonderful! And when I ask her what's her name. She answered: "Kate Josh" instead of "Kate Hoe"! Lol!
Company
I feel that we should accompany our children to play and have interaction at least an hour a day. This is important because if now we don't play with them, when we will? When they go secondary school? Possible but less likely.
For example:
We bring them to playground for around 30-45mins in the morning.
We bring them to library for around 30-40mins once every two days.
We travel with them on bus, taxi and train.
We bring them to NTUC, marketing as well as buying simple stuff like bread.
This way they will learn and know that company is very important.
Saying 'Hi' and 'Hello' and 'Goodbye' is an important trait and now Josh opens up better when he saw our neighbours, or people I talk to. Kate will follow too! Initially, he didn't want to say. However, through months of saying and saying, he opens up! Yeah!
Location: EC HOUSE @ UNITED SQUARE
Cost: $10
I wonder do I want to name my third child, Love. I happen to click on pregnancy giving birth video. Guess what? They documented the birth of Baby 'Love'. What a coincidence! This is still in the pipeline! Help me vote at the right hand side column! -->
I'm just so excited about it.
Loving your child is undivided and not equal. This is the fact. Josh and Kate are different in terms of character and behaviour. And both Eve and I know it. Josh is a boy who needs more loves and hugs and confirmation from us, and of course we have to explain to him at times what should be done, and what is right and wrong. It's challenging because we are learning. Josh is learning too! For Kate, she can roam around by herself and at times, when an aeroplane flys by, she will be afraid and needs our attention. Here comes our hugs to her! Every child is different.
Compliment
We must try ways to compliment our children as much as possible when we see good acts from them.
For example:
1. Josh shares his toys with Kate.
2. Josh feeds Kate.
3. Josh holds her hand up the stairs.
4. Josh keeps his toys, without us telling him.
5. Josh washes his hands, legs automatically!
6. Josh finishes his food by himself!
All these instances, we have to say 'Great Job', 'Good Boy'... this is to encourage him and it will leave him a good impression. He feels good, we feels good.
I can still remember that my dad only said 'Good Boy' to me only once. And this is certainly memorable because it was done once. And I feel that more should be said as a child will feel loved even more. Guys seldom will like to say these words, however, I will make a conscious effort to do it. I will not fake it, but definitely, when Josh crosses the line, we will distract him to do other things and explain to him nicely.
Anyway, compliments are FREE!
For Kate, she now prefers to wear herself shoes, and socks. The growing independence at her side and it is really commendable because she wants to do things herself. Also, she wants to drink milk, eat meals herself! This is really very good! We kept encouraging her even though the way she wore the shoes take a long time, she managed to do it!
Copying
For my two children, now, both copies what each other are doing.
1. If Kate is wanting to play cooking, Josh will come too and may take the toys! Kate will be unhappy about it. We will distract Josh to do other interesting thing like train track building.
2. If Kate pronounces wrongly, Josh will also follow what she is saying. Those baby talk. Of course we try to correct him as we do not want to make it a habit for him.
3. If Josh is eating by himself, Kate will also mirror him and wants to eat too! This is good.
4. If Kate is bathing, and when Josh sees her bath, he will also want to bathe. This is positive mirroring.
This copying or mirroring is positive and negative at times. And when it is positive, we praise them!
If it causes discontentment, it is our role as parents to guide and show patience to them.
I can still recall last time when my sister and I would quarrel about some small issues on toys, and that the certain plastic container is suddenly so precious. Everyone wants to have it. We have to educate about sharing and we must keep emphasizing what is correct and should not do.
Hence, love and patience should be shown when we teach our children. It is so important, but it's tough! Sometimes, we have to manage our emotions and remember not to raise our voices. Take a deep breath. If one is not enough, take even more deep breaths!
It's funny that Kate treats Josh as a role model. Now, she even wants to wear his clothes! How wonderful! And when I ask her what's her name. She answered: "Kate Josh" instead of "Kate Hoe"! Lol!
Company
I feel that we should accompany our children to play and have interaction at least an hour a day. This is important because if now we don't play with them, when we will? When they go secondary school? Possible but less likely.
For example:
We bring them to playground for around 30-45mins in the morning.
We bring them to library for around 30-40mins once every two days.
We travel with them on bus, taxi and train.
We bring them to NTUC, marketing as well as buying simple stuff like bread.
This way they will learn and know that company is very important.
Saying 'Hi' and 'Hello' and 'Goodbye' is an important trait and now Josh opens up better when he saw our neighbours, or people I talk to. Kate will follow too! Initially, he didn't want to say. However, through months of saying and saying, he opens up! Yeah!
Cut Hair for Kate
Location: EC HOUSE @ UNITED SQUARE
Cost: $10
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| Before she had the hair cut... What a cute train yes? |
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| Look at the monster hands!! She is calm. |
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| She is watching Barney cartoon for the first time. |
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| Happy Kate with a neater haircut!! Proud of her! |
Kate is very brave. She managed to sit still for 2 minutes for her haircut! This is commending and it is really amazing. This place is child friendly. We used to cut at Junction 8 Level 2. However, it cost us $20. We decided to give it a try at United Square and it is worth it! :)
